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aznDude

Hi everyone,

I've just signed up this forum. I'm from somewhere in south east asia. I have a Brunei girlfriend. She's on a holiday in Brunei now and i'm in oz at the moment. We've been keeping in touch everyday. She always goes out with friends in a group like 2 or 3 days in a week and she always tell me and also told me that this is normal in Brunei. But I don't believe it coz we are all in south east asia and in my home country if girls go out at nite it's not good. So I am so doubtful is it normal that Brunei girls around 20 of ages go out at nite till like 3am? Oh for more information she's Christian.

Please anyone help answering my question sincerely.
Thanks in advance.

Regards.

stud · Posted: Thu Dec 21, 2006 3:02 am Post subject:

Are you trying to say that the girls in Brunei are a little loose, or more easy to score? There is nothing wrong with going out a few nights a week with your mates...If you dont trust her now then what will become of the relationship further down the track?
I dont think that her being a Christian would make to much difference, there are a lot of Budists, Muslims, Catholics and you can name the rest that would drop their pants at the drop of a hat...
Just let her be and dont worry.
STUD Cool

aznDude · Posted: Thu Dec 21, 2006 5:45 am Post subject:

Thanks alot for your reply. She's attractive and out going. But going out late nite is just not normal, isn't it? at least it's wat I perceive. That's why I wanna know it's normal or not? I trust her but not tottaly.

Thanks again for your reply.

aznDude · Posted: Thu Dec 21, 2006 5:55 am Post subject:

Oh see different msg from you on the same reply hehe. Well, I really appreciate your help. The thing is I don't know your culture even tho she said this and that. I tried to find information about Brunei on teen lifestyle but couldn't find any until i find this forum. *sigh* I wanna know about your culture so I can adjust myself better.

Cheers mate.

stud · Posted: Thu Dec 21, 2006 5:55 am Post subject:

Yeah you must give her some trust, I dont think she would get into to much trouble there.. Try calling her at odd hours and listen for different sounds. Or even use someone else's phone if she knows your number. But if you are to stay together there must be trust!
STUD Cool

stud · Posted: Thu Dec 21, 2006 5:59 am Post subject:

aznDude · Posted: Thu Dec 21, 2006 6:02 am Post subject:

She's a kinda person that don't use phone alot and it's normal for her. Sometimes she reply my text instantly and sometimes she takes half of day to reply. Most of the time i ring she doesn't pick up the fone but we keep texting everyday. that's why it's hard to communicate with her *sigh* I know we should trust our partner but trust is built up from little things.

stud · Posted: Thu Dec 21, 2006 6:07 am Post subject:

Try sending a text from your mates phone and chat her up Idea

Tell her you got her number from an old mate and see if you can arrange a date with her. If she flatly rejects you then you can sleep well, but if she seems interested well you know what to do.
STUD Cool

aznDude · Posted: Thu Dec 21, 2006 6:04 pm Post subject:

I just tried it but she never replied. Cheers.

Vixey · Posted: Thu Dec 21, 2006 10:52 pm Post subject:

Women/Men are the same in any part of the world. Its really nothing to do with the lifestyle of a certain country but the lifestyle of the person involved.

If she's not totally in to you then it doesn't matter if she is in Brunei or in the South Pole. She would still be on the lookout for someone else.

You either trust someone or you don't. There is no halfway.

So what if she is out till 3am with friends? Time and length of time is of no consequence.

Your problem is not her or the lifestyle in her country. Your problem is you and your own insecurities and perceptions of women & relationships.

Take it from me, most women of today will run a thousand miles from a control freak or a possessive boyfriend demanding to know where you are and with who all the time.

I believe it works both ways. Respecting each other's individuality is key.


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